Whitney Houston, Success Thinking and Your Bed and Breakfast Business

It was a sad day for me last weekend, when we learned of the death of Whitney Houston, an icon of the entertainment industry who touched our hearts with her marvellous voice.  Whitney herself stated that she was her own worst enemy and her own best friend, depending on what demons were rolling around in her head.  Clearly the enemy demons had got the better of her lately and caused her to under-perform at recent concerts.  Such a shame, and such a waste of talent.

We all have demons in our heads, and depending on how much control we exercise over our minds, they will have an effect on our behaviour and ultimately our results.  The things we say to ourselves and to others will have an effect on how things turn out for us.  If we talk positively we will have positive outcomes and if we talk negatively, then we will have negative outcomes.   Studies have shown that no two people’s reality is the same, and each reality is formed by our own unique perspective on the world.

But it’s not just about positive thinking.  We’ve all had experiences where positive thinking just doesn’t work.  I know I have!   It’s more about our deep core beliefs, and how we see ourselves.  But what does this have to do with running a Bed and Breakfast business?  Let me explain…

If we believe that we don’t have any particular value to offer people, then we will find ourselves discounting prices and driving our businesses into the ground.

If we believe that the economy is going down the drain and that we are going with it, then we might find that comes true for us.

If we believe that we don’t have the money to invest in ourselves to learn how to make the changes we know we need to make, then we won’t make that investment, and nothing will change.

As Albert Einstein said, “you can’t solve a problem with the same thinking that created it”, and “to keep on doing the same thing and expect different results is the definition of insanity”.

How we think is the foundation of anything we create, and this is the first Key we focus on in my Coaching Programs, because if we’re not thinking right, then nothing will come right, and our money and our efforts will be wasted.

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  1. Jan says:

    A thoughtful post on how what we think leads to the decisions we make, and the results of that thinking. It’s when you realise that you, and only you are in charge of your thoughts, you can learn to contain the demons.

    Whitney Houston truly never found ‘the greatest love of all, loving yourself’ did she.

    • Yvonne says:

      Thanks Jan for commenting. Sometimes it’s too easy to blame everything and everyone else and not take responsibility – part of being human perhaps? Thanks again 🙂

  2. Hi Yvonne

    I couldnt agree more with what you say here about getting our thinking right first. Many clients tell me they struggle with this. I don’t think you and I do any more, do you? But that’s only because we’ve been practising doing it the positive way for decades now? I’m still so excited by helping business people to do this and I can tell you are too, lots of positive energy in this post. Keep on keeping on. J

    • Yvonne says:

      Thanks for commenting Judith 🙂 – I think this is the number one that prevents us from succeeding, and I know you’d agree with that. I don’t think many people realise this, and tend to blame everything else and everyone else, when really if we just take responsibility and start noticing what we’re saying to ourselves, then things can start to improve. Thanks J x

  3. Marion Ryan says:

    You speak with great wisdom! Linked with this whole limiting belief issue is the one where we look at someone else – as many of us might have looked at Whitney many years ago – and tell ourselves “Well, it’s ok for them. If I were younger / had their money / had their voice…”. Envying what we perceive they have (often incorrect) rather than celebrating our own advantages and talents.

    • Yvonne says:

      Thanks for commenting Marion, and yes, sometimes it’s easier to “envy” others than to look at ourselves and discover the amazing talents we already possess. Thanks again 🙂

  4. Changing our internal voice is never easy – but it can be done! I think that if you define success for yourself even before you open your bed and breakfast, you have a much better chance of avoiding those negative thoughts. That being said, as you and I have both discovered, many people don’t bother with that aspect when thinking of owning a B&B.

    It doesn’t mean that someone who already owns a B&B can’t change their mind set at all…and they might have a much better chance of success because they have already experienced the reality of B&B ownership.

    Wherever you are in your journey, having something that keeps you forward looking and moving towards your goals helps with that sense of hopelessness that obviously Whitney felt. It is also a good idea to periodically look back and acknowledge how far you have already come…a lot of us forget to do that!

    • Yvonne says:

      Wise words indeed Susan, and so very true. Most business owners in general, not just B&B owners believe that just because they could do say, accounting for example, that they can run an accountancy business. The two functions are not the same. There is a mindset to success, and as you rightly say, success looks different for everyone, but defining it for yourself and then setting some goals that you feel you can achieve means you’ve a much better chance of getting there than if you don’t. And once you’ve got your head straight. Thanks for commenting Susan 🙂

  5. Yvonne, how true that is that we create our own reality. Agree with you around sometimes it doesn’t matter how much positive thinking you do.
    Love the quote you include at the end about the definition of insanity. Enjoy your writing and positive approach. Thank you, Amanda

  6. hi Yvonne, very clever to include Whitney in a post that’s about positive v. negative thinking. Topical and inspiring. Love it. Thank you, Sally